- What do I do with the triangle on the job. Ex is jealous and despair after his partner has found new love – in the workplace. See what E24s job experts believe the manager should do to sort it out.
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Updated: 12/21/2010 at. 1:04 p.m.
Posted: 12/21/2010 at. 10:27

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Weekly question:

Two employees in my department had a break of a year ago. The
have two children together.

She now has a new relationship with a new colleague in the workplace where
all three jobs.

Her ex-boyfriend can handle this bad and involves himself with irony,
sad and painful comments on Facebook and via SMS to both parties in, tibia gold, the
new relationship and in particular attacked her new boyfriend.

All are great colleagues and talented, but very affected by jealousy and
involvement of the single ex-boyfriend. This has resulted in
sick of both of the new relationship, but not simultaneously.

My manager and I have had several conversations with all three and they have had
conversations among themselves, but it all just continues. Do you have suggestions for what
we as their employer should do

Reply from Trond:

Whether you should hire people who are married or have a relationship, and in
extent to which a company should have guidelines for what the employer can
do if two co-workers find each other and both continue to work for
the same employer, is, apb cash,Glad that the artist camp closes, a policy question.

In many businesses this will be problematic, at least as long as
relationship exists. Other places may be more difficult, and make a
relationships at work can not be accepted.

However, it is not the case that the employer will have just cause to terminate
an employment relationship solely because the person has initiated or
ended a relationship with a colleague. The consequences of the relationship can
however, become so problematic that these may eventually be due to
dismissal.

It follows from the Working Environment Act, the employer is responsible for
employees have a satisfactory working environment. This implies a
responsibility both for the individual's physical and mental health and welfare.

The problems in the situation you describe is basically private
character, and after that I understand the disseminated attacks via social media and
sms and not through direct communication in the workplace. This is
However, less significant when the problem becomes so large that the involved
Parties also experience the work situation as difficult.

When this becomes a working problem that the employer is obliged to
do something with, both in the interests of the parties to the conflict and the other
workers in the business. You write that despite several
conversations with those involved have not been any improvement. Whether it is due
inability or unwillingness of ex-girlfriend is not good to know.

Anyway, it seems as if it is high time that he gets a clear message
that the employer takes a serious view on this type of behavior, and expect
this takes an end. This can be done in the form of a written warning which
stated that it could have consequences for employment if he
continues his unacceptable behavior.

If the person in spite of the written warning does not change,
you should eventually consider whether to initiate a termination process.

Reply from Christine:

Most people see challenges with close personal relationships at work and finds
solutions by either party ends on their own initiative.

It is therefore a bit special, all three chose to stay in business in this
situation. It's nice that you talk to them about the problems, but you have to
become even clearer in setting requirements for what you expect and demand of
behavior of all three.

Because they have children together and thus are forced to have a private
relationship, the conflict becomes extra complicated.

Attempts to refine the issues relating to the workplace, and
avoid the role of family counselor. In new and sensitive discussions, I hope you
has a natural confidence and a clear plan.

If you are not very experienced with conflict resolution, I recommend that you
seek advice from an organizational psychologist. They can give you good techniques for both
for the process and for the talks.

If the noise continues after a new mediation, and all three continue to insist
to be, so I rr to Trond and process for the warning, any
dismissal.

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